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We Are Not Free.
How the Kolkata incident shows us what we are oblivious to.
I’m enraged anytime this incident happens in India or anywhere else — and let me tell you — the West isn’t so pure either.
When you hear “not all men” as the discourse — you’re claiming that individual action matters when in reality you won’t work for the collective at all. The same men enable locker room talk, and the same families consider a woman who has standards to be “uptight and bitchy.” There are stories of men who have had friends where they raped women, and they knew it was coming. Where’s your accountability there?
A lot of the rhetoric that happens in arranged marriage, dating, or simply being in the presence of men — often comes with how violence is perpetrated — this case in Kolkata is just that.
In fact, it translates to experiences within the West, and I have personally faced a form of that violence as well. From what I’ve heard, I speak anecdotally.
Social media can raise awareness, but it fails to address how the world is on a…
