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Family Orientation Doesn’t Exist
It’s an aesthetic, and there’s so much more to unwrap.
Note: this is written from a matriarchial, energy work point of view. If this triggers you, just know that society has considered many things okay when it’s not.
Family orientation as an idea is all about the idea of a family through rose-colored glasses. However, as a concept, it’s false, because the masculine collective doesn’t comprehend a few things, and over time, because of the systems we live and operate in —it doesn’t actually work.
Family orientation is a nice way of saying a pleasing family aesthetic where you see nothing wrong. A lot of women who complain about domestic labor, and how they’re mentally, physically, and emotionally overworked —see the inequity of how their masculine counterpart doesn’t take the load off of their shoulders. It’s also in studies that women do more work in egalitarian societies and relationships. More importantly, as a society, we haven’t deconditioned ourselves from seeing how women are a part of men's games. Men, objectively saying, are raised to be self-centered — women are not.
If a man is not head over heels for you and doesn’t genuinely like and respect you, the family can’t sustain. I’ve personally seen countless fathers who chose to be absent from their family lives, simply because they only became fathers for societal reasons. Now I can’t help men fix their choices immediately, but I can educate women on how to overcome this aspect.
Family orientation consists of people pleasing, it’s so that there’s a compromise, without actually having a healthy relationship. Men are not family-oriented — they think individually. You can try as much as you want, nothing a woman can do will change it.
So what is the solution? He must be devoted to his wife and to her life. Loyalty and other generic traits come from devotion. The masculine force has to fully be a part of the feminine experience. How you date him in the beginning matters the most. It sets the tone for the relationship and it’s not just about you.
Here’s an article about why your standards should be higher:
